Top 10 Things You SHOULD Do as a Swinger Newbie

What's woody wood, grasshoppers?

This is the flip side to the last blog

Words from your favorite author...

1. Post videos of you fuckin in swing groups so headz can see what you're workin' with

Granted that you have permission from the other person or people to post them

2. Fuck the dog shit outta a chick @ a party

I got more pussy when chicks saw me put in work than any inbox message that was sent

Facto

3. Go to parties with a friend or two

Especially for women who need to be more comfortable and secure @ parties in case something goes wrong

4. Approach the man of a couple if you're a male, and the woman if you're a female, if you want a one-on-one with their significant other

That's the universal etiquette even though each couple has their own rules

5. Stay out the inbox

Just because you got rhythm thru text doesn't mean that'll translate well when ya'll see each other for the first time

Nobody wants their time wasted

6. Go to meet and greets more often

85 percent of communication is body language

See point 5 as a reference

7. If you come to a party with someone, leave with that same person (and check on them periodically)

8. Flirt @ a party to test the waters if you're afraid of rejection

9. Bring a bottle that costs more than 20 bucks

Or buy some shit that you think nobody has heard of if you're on a budget (cheat code)

10. Bring a date

Dudes who come solo always have the audacity to complain about sausage parties when they don't even bring their side chicks

Social media groups are a great place to meet and link up with someone of interest if you REALLY want to experience the Swinger lifestyle

It's better to come with a companion to get a better feel of the game instead as a single

Aight, I'm Audi 5G

Peace and Afro Grease

Nah'Sun the Great @ www.nahsunblaze.com

Looks and Money verses Personality

A man is traditionally viewed as the bread winner. So a lot of times a woman’s financial situation is not important. For example…

A chick could look like a monster. But if she walks around with a phat ass and/or nice body then most dudes will holler. This might not stand true in isolated situations, but I’ve seen this through observation majority of the time.

A dude can look like Mr. Universe. But if ol' boy uses a metro card for primary transportation, stays @ home with ma dukes, and don’t have money in his pockets, then his chances are slim.

Don’t believe me? Well, finance is the NUMBER ONE reason why people divorce in America. Those dead green guys play a big role in securing a relationship.

Besides, a wise woman once said, "love don’t pay the bills"

You might say what I've described is superificial. Maybe you have a point...it's nothing but sexual politics to me.

Women are probably the number one reason why guys want success...the main motivator…I must admit this as a man, but P.U.S.S.Y makes the world go ‘round

Check what Tony had told Manolo in Scarface…

"First you get the money…then power…and last women." 

It’s only a movie, but that thought applies to the real world.

Another example…this time I’m gonna hit the college scene.

Athletes and fraternities are considered the cream of the crop on campus, at least socially. I’ve seen lame ass dudes who couldn’t get ass if their lives depended on it. But soon as they pledged a fraternity or got some publicity on a sports team, them same girls who shitted on them were throwing the booty hardcore left and right



Sororities have their groupies, but not on the same level as fraternities. Looks STILL count no matter how much power a woman holds. I doubt dudes would wanna sleep with Martha Stewart over Buffie The Body or Carmen Electra…LOL

On the other hand, you have millionaire, or even billionaire men, who aren't attractively challenged date some of the most gorgeous women known to man.

BUT…I’m gonna contradict myself and play devil’s advocate.

Women who are viewed as “dimes” to the majority can appear ugly with a stank personality. Women who are viewed as “average looking” to the majority can appear as “dimes” with style and a magnetic personality.

It’s not about how she looks on the outside as much as how she is as a person. Unless she's the trophy chick. I’ve seen highly attractive looking women get passed up for average looking women on the strength of swag and sense of style…when I say style, I don’t mean caking your face with pounds of make up and rocking the most expensive gear as possible.

A woman with a big ass, large breasts, wide hips, etc. can only get her so far in love. At the end of the day, if a woman fails to develop any kind of communicative skill with an attracting personality then she's only a trophy or fuck buddy...true story.

If you think you’re too skinny, I suggest eating the right foods and workout in the gym.

If you think you’re overweight, I suggest hitting the gym and watching your diet. My advice is more so about health and grooming your appearance than laws of attraction. What you think about yourself on the inside can affect how people think of YOU on the outside.

It’s kinda like the theory of "it’s not WHAT but HOW a person said it"

The same goes with men…

Grindin and hustling LEGALLY is important. This has nothing to do with bagging females per se, but more so with learning responsibility and doing your own thing.

If you don’t wanna work a 9-to-5, then research how to run a business and possibly set-up a vendor on the street. Cats get hella loot by selling oils, books and other items…they have 125th Street in Harlem on lock

I’ve said enough…hit a brotha up if I left out some points.

Aight, I'm Audi 5000

Peace and Afro Grease

Nah'Sun the Great @ www.nahsunblaze.com

New York Women

What's woody wood, grasshoppers?

I have a quick question to ask...

...why are New York women so damn mean?!

And why do I think New York women walk around with a chip on their shoulders?

I used to say to my New York buddies, "I don't know how ya'll can deal with the women here"

So at first, I thought it was just me. But then I found out that other dudes in NYC felt the same way. And I felt better…LOL

I’m from Chicago, and I've met women from different parts of the city when I used to perform and go clubbing in NYC...I noticed a BIG difference between the attitudes of native New Yorkers and out of towners...even Long Island women are much cooler and more down to earth, and Long Island is on the SAME body of land with Brooklyn and Queens!

For everyone who isn’t from New York City, NYC is made up of 5 boroughs: Brooklyn, Queens, Bronx, Manhattan, and the red headed step-child called Staten Island.

Long Island is east of Queens.

What’s funny is that it got to a point where I KNOW when a woman is NOT from the 5 boroughs.

If you’re a chick who smiles and appears too happy-go-lucky when I see you walking down the street, most likely you’re NOT from New York.

Real talk

How do I know?

I usually strike a conversation with them and find out they aren’t originally from NYC, or when I converse with a woman at a club who lives out of town

I don’t wanna generalize, but the majority of women I’ve met in NYC who acted more easy going were either:


A) From other parts of the United States and moved to New York

B) Older women (age 30 and up)

C) Living on Long Island, Westchester County (north of the Bronx), or New Jersey (across the Hudson River from NYC)

You might say, "King, maybe it's how you approach them"

I’m not the type of dude who normally holla at females on the street. That’s not my style because it’s impersonal, and I understand the bullshit that women go thru from men on a daily basis with the cat calls.

If I catch eye contact with a shorty, I might say, “Hey, beautiful” and go my merry way.

Sometimes I get a response...
...sometimes I don’t

I don’t take it personal when I don't

I don’t take it personal because NYC is a cold, dog-eat-dog, rat race type of city where people are constantly on top of each other.

And people wonder why I rather work and live on Long Island than the boroughs…NYC is TOO stressful...word up

So I understand why New York women put up a defensive wall when you approach them

I laugh to myself when I see a sista mean mugging, but smiles AFTER I say a joke.

Anyway, I’m out like Star Wars

Peace

Nah'Sun the Great @ www.nahsunblaze.com

P.S.

To all the New York women out there; I’m not shitting on ya’ll. But damn, it doesn’t hurt to smile sometimes